I said I wouldn't go into brother-in-law's nonsense in the last blog, but I think I will. I need to vent.
BIL was invited to come here from New Mexico for Christmas. He's bringing his friend/roommate that has become an adopted family member. He owns two spoiled rotten Lhasa Apsos that he apparently thinks are just like people.
BIL sent an e-mail out to the whole family this week announcing that he'd be bringing his dogs to my house and leave them kenneled in my garage for the three days he'd be here. He didn't ask us if that would be okay, he just announced it. I told him that I wasn't comfortable with that idea, and gave him the name and number for a reputable boarding business here in town that I've used before with my own pets.
This sets off a series of hissy fits via e-mail, with BIL doing everything in his power to try to manipulate me into giving in and saying the dogs can come. Since I don't take kindly to that sort of thing, and I have my own very good reasons for not wanting two spoiled dogs coming to my house, I once again told him no. My father-in-law even offered to pay for a pet-friendly hotel room for him, and that wasn't good enough ("I'd be too worried that the maids might let them out or steal them"). He sent me another e-mail trying to get me to cave in. I haven't responded yet.
For posterity, here are the reasons I don't want two yappy dogs that haven't been trained in my home:
*I have a large dog that doesn't like small dogs and who has never been introduced to the yappers. I don't want a dog fight on my hands.
*I have a 13 month old who likes to climb on dogs, pull their ears, etc. My dog is very patient with all of this and usually will just sit there and let him do it. Lhasa Apsos are not known as being a patient breed.
*The dogs aren't trained. They get into everything. They get on the furniture. I don't allow that sort of thing from my own dog, so why would I want it from someone else's?
*Let's say he actually does leave them kenneled in the garage the whole time like he swears (I doubt this. If I cave to letting him bring them, the next campaign would be for me to let them come out of their crates.). My cats get their food and water in the garage. Their litterbox is also out there. It's where they go to hide when they're overwhelmed by company, small children, etc. If I have two constantly yapping little dogs out there, the cats won't go in. This will mean cats that pee outside of their litterbox, most likely inside my house. Ever tried to get cat pee smell out of something?
*Finally, BIL didn't ASK if they could come, he TOLD us they were coming. I don't appreciate being told what to do in my own home.
I'm super pissed. Jacob says if BIL keeps this up, he'll find himself uninvited for Christmas. At this point, BIL can stay home for all I care, but he's his roommate's ride down here and I really was looking forward to seeing her. I'm not going to allow a manipulator to win, though. If I cave in, then he'll just push the boundaries on another issue. GRRR.
BIL was invited to come here from New Mexico for Christmas. He's bringing his friend/roommate that has become an adopted family member. He owns two spoiled rotten Lhasa Apsos that he apparently thinks are just like people.
BIL sent an e-mail out to the whole family this week announcing that he'd be bringing his dogs to my house and leave them kenneled in my garage for the three days he'd be here. He didn't ask us if that would be okay, he just announced it. I told him that I wasn't comfortable with that idea, and gave him the name and number for a reputable boarding business here in town that I've used before with my own pets.
This sets off a series of hissy fits via e-mail, with BIL doing everything in his power to try to manipulate me into giving in and saying the dogs can come. Since I don't take kindly to that sort of thing, and I have my own very good reasons for not wanting two spoiled dogs coming to my house, I once again told him no. My father-in-law even offered to pay for a pet-friendly hotel room for him, and that wasn't good enough ("I'd be too worried that the maids might let them out or steal them"). He sent me another e-mail trying to get me to cave in. I haven't responded yet.
For posterity, here are the reasons I don't want two yappy dogs that haven't been trained in my home:
*I have a large dog that doesn't like small dogs and who has never been introduced to the yappers. I don't want a dog fight on my hands.
*I have a 13 month old who likes to climb on dogs, pull their ears, etc. My dog is very patient with all of this and usually will just sit there and let him do it. Lhasa Apsos are not known as being a patient breed.
*The dogs aren't trained. They get into everything. They get on the furniture. I don't allow that sort of thing from my own dog, so why would I want it from someone else's?
*Let's say he actually does leave them kenneled in the garage the whole time like he swears (I doubt this. If I cave to letting him bring them, the next campaign would be for me to let them come out of their crates.). My cats get their food and water in the garage. Their litterbox is also out there. It's where they go to hide when they're overwhelmed by company, small children, etc. If I have two constantly yapping little dogs out there, the cats won't go in. This will mean cats that pee outside of their litterbox, most likely inside my house. Ever tried to get cat pee smell out of something?
*Finally, BIL didn't ASK if they could come, he TOLD us they were coming. I don't appreciate being told what to do in my own home.
I'm super pissed. Jacob says if BIL keeps this up, he'll find himself uninvited for Christmas. At this point, BIL can stay home for all I care, but he's his roommate's ride down here and I really was looking forward to seeing her. I'm not going to allow a manipulator to win, though. If I cave in, then he'll just push the boundaries on another issue. GRRR.
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